Ragdoll cats

My ragdoll is a Great Dane. In a cat package.

For those of you that did not know, or have missed it – I have a cat called Majken. It’s pronounced Mai-Ken, like Mai-Thais. She’s a ragdoll, and currently a kitten. She’ll turn 1 year old in september 2020. She’s a real mischief, a troll, a real rascal and stubborn as hell, but I love her. It was wrong of me to get a kitten while living in such a small space, but I do not regret her, I just regret that I did not think it through as much as I should’ve. I was just so desperate for a new cat that I could not imagine my life being without one. My old cat Maja, died in October of 2019, and I had her for about 12 years. Losing her was one of the worst things I’ve gone through in my life. So now I have a ragdoll.

Not my cat in the video!

Having a ragdoll is a blast, especially now when she’s getting older. I’ve come to the conclusion that ragdolls are indeed puppy cats. I have a dog, but in a cat package, or format. She follows me everywhere, unless she’s too tired. She wants to be with me and/or my friends as much as possible. If I cook something in the kitchen, she’s there. If I take care of the laundry – she’s there. If I sleep on the bed, she likes to lay beside me and sometimes she likes being on my lap. She loves to be held and to cuddle. If she sleeps near me, she loves being constantly touched – just like a Great Dane. She also talks a lot and is somewhat smart. Also, I’m never alone in the bathroom. If I try, I have a sourpuss waiting outside the door. She also loves dogs, other cats and people.

Majken lies on the bed and sleeps and lies really close to me as well.

I’m not kidding. This feels like having a Great Dane. She’s just missing the height and weight. Still, she’s a big kitty, probably weighing close or more than 12lbs at the moment. I can barely carry her, since I have issues with my muscles (fibromyalgia) and she’s so heavy. It’s a wonder I don’t have bruises all over my upper body, because she like to cuddle by lying on top of me when I’m lying down in bed. If she sits on me, her paws feels like knives or something, but I’ve taught her to lie down quickly so that’s good.

I’ve never had a cat that was this social. Well, my other old cat Nisse, that unfortunately died pretty early was pretty social, but not as social as Majken. This is on a whole other level.

The good thing about this is that waiting for a Great Dane will not be that hard, since I have a cat that pretty much acts like a Great Dane already. Still, I can’t wait to have that breed of a dog, but I’m gonna have to wait until I live in a bigger place. Majken is really longing for somebody to play with and keep her company when I’m not there, but as long as I live in this tiny shoebox, I’m totally unable to get another pet. I do hope that I’ll have more cats in the future and they’ll most likely be ragdolls as well. Right now I’m sort of dreaming of having a ragdoll named Tjorven, from the Swedish child tv show made by Astrid Lindren called “Saltkråkan” in Swedish. We on Salt Crow Island it’s called in English. I got the idea for a Tjorven when I saw a photo a while back of a chocolate mitted female ragdoll kitten, and she looked so much like Tjorven from the TV show. Such puffy cheeks, a huge brown nose and oh, so cute.

We’ll se when I’ll be able to get another cat friend for Majken. It’s more likely that my first and future Great Dane will be her friend instead. Having a cat is expensive, more than I bargained for, but she’s worth every penny. Having a Great Dane will probably be pretty expensive as well, since he will eat a lot and require an expensive insurance. If something goes wrong, it will be very expensive. It all depends on how my finances will be in the future and how I will work and live that will decide how many more pets I’ll get besides Majken and a Great Dane.

Either way, I’m happy I chose a ragdoll for a cat. Even though there’s cat hair everywhere. She sheds like crazy. Hopefully it’s just the winter fur coming in, because it’s ridiculous how much she sheds. My black clothes and furniture are more white than black if you catch my drift. I’ve ordered a special roller that shall help with this and I will start to brush her more and vacuum more as well.

Through all the fur and the velcroness of my Majken, I do enjoy this a lot. Now I just have to find a better cat litter that’s eco friendly, doesn’t cost so much and does not color the apartment with paw prints. Any ideas? Leave a comment. Right now I use Ever Clean. It’s probably the best, but it’s so darn expensive and not eco friendly at all.

My future life

I’m obsessed with my future home.

And it’s so annoying, yet it’s equally super fun. For the last two months or so, I’ve started to really think about where I’m gonna and wanna live next. That’s actually been a thing since the day I moved into my current apartment. That’s because this is a rental and it’s supposed to be a temporary home until I find my dream home.

The next place is my idea of my “forever” home. It’s the home where I shall spend the rest of my life in. If I would have had kids, it would be the family home, but since I won’t have any of those, it will just be my home.

The basic idea is to have an apartment or town house with a yard, preferably newly built and where the cost is as low as possible, both for the home itself aka the size, and also for the mortgage and other expenses for that home. I’ve lived in newly built places before and loved it. I live in a newly built place now, where I’m the first tenant. It’s lovely, but it’s oh so tiny. It’s a studio apartment, 322 square feet, or 30 square meters in size. It was all I could afford. Basically all that could fit in here is me and a bed, but luckily I can also fit a TV and my desk. I also have a fully fledged kitchen, a washing machine and a dish washer. I also have a microwave! The bathroom is pretty big for such a small studio apartment as well. I love it here, but I honestly can’t wait until I have a bigger place.

Me and a cat in this place is a bit tiny though. I wish I’d known how hard it would be living in such a small space with a kitten. I do not regret her, but I do regret this, even though I love this apartment. It’s big enough for me, but I really want a bigger place that I can afford, but I refuse to move into another temporary place. No, I shall stay here until I can move into my dream home. Aka, I shall stay here for a few years. Or perhaps forever, since nothing goes my way in life. My experience tells me so.

I guess it’s one of the many reasons why I think so much about my future home, because I’m longing for a good night’s sleep. And I’m so tired of moving. Not that I’ve moved a lot in my life, but a whole lot more than I’d like to have moved, that’s for sure. And I’d really like to have a proper bedroom, living room and kitchen to say the least, but since this will be my forever home – I’m desperately planning for something bigger than that.

The good thing is that I actually found my dream home. It’s from a company called BoKlok. It’s a company made from IKEA and Skanska, another builder here in Sweden. The company name BoKlok basically translates as “Live Wise” or “Live Smart”. They build quality homes for normal people with normal wallets. Most newly built homes cost a fortune. They check all the boxes regarding how I have wished to live for many years now. No wonder I’m so obsessed with them.

In the close vicinity to my old apartment in Malmö where my ex still lives, there’s a new district being built. A normal sized two bedroom apartment there, costs about 1 million Swedish crowns ($100 000) more than where he lives. Just on the other side of the road, you can save a million and live almost as good as you would in the more expensive and new apartments. That’s crazy!

I’m hoping for a 2 bedroom apartment at 72 square meters (775 square foot) with a yard, so it has to be on the ground floor. It’s because I’m getting a Great Dane that this is so important. Otherwise I could live on any floor. I might consider living a bit higher up if I’m desperate enough, but I do want that yard… If I do not get a chance at a ground floor apartment, I might try to get a town house by them, but it’s a bit too expensive for me unless I have a huge down payment.

It will take me a few years to save that kind of cash. The good thing about that is that it also increases my chances of having a low mortgage or affording a town house. No matter what it will take me at least 2, 3 year before I’m able to move out of this place. My plan is to leave at the earliest in the fall or winter of 2022 – if I can hold out that long. I’m just being realistic here, and not relying on anybody to help me out with a loan. Unless I become a millionaire because I won the lottery, or I’m lucky enough to get a part time job where I’ll later work full time as a developer, I most likely have to wait that long until I can move into my dream home.

That’s mostly due to me being a student today and I won’t be able to start saving until I’ve gotten my first real job as a developer full-time. I am counting on that to be the case in June of next year, aka 2021. Right now I’m forced to live on my savings unless I get a part time job soon 😭!

Still, I can’t wait to get out of here, even though I love this place. The location is awesome, and I have everything I need here and I’d like to continue living like this forever if I could. What I’m referring to is that I want to keep living close to a mall, a supermarket (think Walmart), a train station and have buses as well nearby. I also have a few restaurants available here and I can get food deliveries easily to. This “luxury” is very important to me, so I’d like to have that no matter where my next place will be. The location of where I live is a real happiness for me, even though the apartment is so tiny. I really am thankful that it’s a newly built place and I have all the luxuries of appliances and location that I do have. Otherwise, I’d probably be more desperate to move away.

I’ve also figured out that I could probably live very well in a smaller apartment. BoKlok has 1 bedroom apartments at 55 square meters (592 square foot), which is almost double the size of my current place. If I won’t be able to get my first choice, a one bedroom apartment might suffice. I’ve sort of looked down on that kind of apartment before, because somehow in my tiny, stupid little brain I could not imagine I would fit all my stuff, but after some long hard thoughts I found out that it would not be a problem at all. The only downside to having a 1 bedroom apartment is that I lose one room, that would be used as my office. Therefore I desperately hope that I’ll be able to get my hands on a 2 bedroom apartment with a yard on the ground floor when it’s my turn to move. Considering I won’t be moving from this dream home until I move into a retirement home for the elders, it’s also important to have a little bigger place if I can afford it. According to my budget – I can easily afford to live a little bit bigger. Hey, like I mentioned before – I can afford a town house, as long as I have that huge down payment and my salary is high enough.

When I say “my turn” it’s because BoKlok does many thing differently compared to other companies that builds houses and homes for humans. The whole buying process is different. Normally, if you’d buy a place here in Sweden, you’d have to fight it with money in a bidding war or something. Usually the guy who can pay the most for the house or apartment wins. With BoKlok you instead take part in a lottery. The first person mentioned gets first pick and so on. It’s a lot fairer than a huge bidding war. I really do hope I get a good number when it’s time for me to move away from here. Hopefully there aren’t so many people so desperate as me that have to live on the ground floor in a 2 bedroom apartment. Even if I get a bad number, I could technically choose my dream home anyway.

I recently spoke to a person who has the exact same apartment on the ground floor as I’d like to have. She had number 36 in line, and only wanted to live on the ground floor. When it was her turn – she could choose a 2 bedroom apartment on the ground floor, so that was pretty cool! It all depends on who’s getting first in line and where they wanna live. Usually the sale process takes years as well. There are current projects where the apartments are ready to move in, either now or in a few weeks where there’s still a few apartments or houses left to buy.

In order to try and let this go, I do have to prioritize what’s more important. Of course number one is a 2 bedroom apartment on the ground floor with a yard, but then? How important is that yard? Is it more important to live on the ground floor and have a yard than to just live on the ground floor, but maybe live a bit smaller? Or is it to live as cheap as possible, probably be mortgage free in a few years after purchase? I have no idea. As time goes by so slowly, I’m going crazy right now regarding this, because it feels like I’m getting more desperate by the hour for my dream home.

However, after thinking about this hard, I’ve figured out that having one extra room is more important than just living on the ground floor with a yard. That’s because I really want to have the biggest place possible I can afford. According to my budget that I have made, my finances would be awesome no matter what kind of apartment I will choose to get by BoKlok. The only difference is that with a smaller apartment, I’d get to live as cheap as possible a little bit faster than with a somewhat bigger place. Therefore I prioritize one more room, at least for my future home.

I mean, I had no idea I’d be able to find my dream home so quickly, because I thought that it did not exist. At least not in this price range. I can always by an apartment that’s newly build and if I have the salary for it I can afford it. It’s just – I really do like to live cheaply, save a bunch of money and just feel safe, knowing I have money in the bank and no worries. I’ve never really had that, and if I did it’s only been temporary. I’ve never had my dream home, even though I’ve lived very well many times. I’ve never had that yard, with a Great Dane to scoop up the poop from 🤪.

And I really like to have it all, and the sooner the better. I’m done waiting. Really. But I know I have to wait at least 2,5 years probably before I can move to my dream home, counting from today.

Ragdoll cats

Life with a Ragdoll kitten, 3+ months in.

January 2nd 2020, I brought my first Ragdoll kitten home. I was looking forward to it with absolute pure joy, since I lost my old baby cat Maja at 12.5 years a few months before. Life without a cat was dreadful, absolutely worse than just becoming single so I just had to get a new cat. With what I know now, I’d never get a kitten in such a small apartment, but what’s done is done and for what it’s worth – I love the little booger to death.

Majken lies in my lap during the first day or so with me.

So many sleepless nights…

I’m a person that needs my sleep. OMG, do I need my sleep. I become a wreak pretty fast if I do not get at lest 8-9 hours of good sleep per night. At a normal state, I basically never sleep well. It takes ages to even get to sleep no matter how tired I am. I wake up a lot during a normal night as well and wake up totally exhausted. I go through a normal day really tired, but I’ve learned to live with it and functioning “normally”. I can even drive a car most days, so that should say something. Anyways. With me being a “parent” to a small child with four paws and a lot of fur, I have not been myself for months. It got so bad I had to get sleeping pills from the doctor. It’s getting better, but it’s still not good. I never get to bed on time, and I rarely get my 8 hours of perfect sleep, especially on a school night. This is mainly due to my kitten Majken waking me up at 5 am to either do some more mischiefs or to just do normal stuff, like going to the litter box, eating some more and then wake me up for some more cuddles. It all depends on how active she’s been during the day.

How it began and how it’s absolutely my own fault

The first nights or so with her were perfect, but then chaos began and I did absolutely everything wrong. She did not have enough toys to play with at first, and I did not play with her as much as I should’ve during the nights and I did not think ahead. I just figured life with a kitten would be as wonderful as my life with Maja, who was chilled deluxe from whenever she left the kitten stage. I was just so used to not having to do anything other than feed and cuddle my cat, so I could not get it into my thick head that I should actually play with my kitten and make her tired enough to sleep through the night. When I finally did start to do the right things, it hat gotten so bad, that I could not fall asleep before 3 AM. I tossed and turned for hours and hours on end and that kept going for way too long. Finally when I got some sleeping pills from the doctor, it slowly started to getting better. It’s still bad, but it’s better, like I mentioned before.

How the nights are these days

I’m now used to waking up at 5 am, and because I do, the cat also wakes up and does her thing. However, one wonderful thing that’s been going on for a week now is that when she finally goes to bed to sleep for the night, she stays quiet and is just absolutely cuddly and nice. Even if she wakes up at 5 AM to do whatever, she keeps quiet and returns to me for cuddles. Some nights she sleeps by my side the whole night, and it’s so comforting. I love it! When she lies besides me, I hold her paws or touch her back and as long as I can touch her, I’ll keep touching her. Partly to know that she’s there and she knows I’m here, but also because it’s so lovely and comforting. I have to mention too that even though we both have the bad habit of waking up at 5 AM, we’ll go back to sleep within an hour and keep sleeping until it’s time to wake up. If I have a school day, I have to get up around 8 AM, but if I’m free, I’ll sleep for however long I want too and Majken does too. Sometimes she’s even sleepier than I am. I should point out though, that this lovely behavior of being quiet during the night, only applies here at home when I’m sleeping by myself. If I stay at a friends house or if a friend stays over here, it’s mischiefs until we all go crazy and sleep is not easily found. That is annoying as hell! I just want to sleep, goddammit…

Me and Majken lying next to each other. She's next to my pillow
This is how we normally wake up no matter what day it is and I absolutely love it!

So what are the days with a Ragdoll kitten like?

Well, mostly they’re great. We wake up, and she follows me around most of the times. If she’s too tired, she’s sleeping, but if not, then I have a kitty glued to my backside or something. I give her breakfast as soon as possible. Then I put out her toys. I’ll eat some breakfast or I’ll start studying or I go to school. If I’m at school I’ll stay there for 7+ hours, but if I’m at home, I just stay home. A few times a week she comes with me to my ex boyfriend, just so I can be with him for a bit and so that she could play some more. Just being there tires her out completely and so she stays pretty chill and tired for about two days. Plus – those nights she lets me sleep a whole lot more, so just for that it’s worth bringing her.

Majken in my arms and we’re taking a twofie. A perfect Twofie!

How Corona affects everything

She’s also started to adapt to my schedule and such. Before this Corona crap started going, she started to calm down a lot when I sat with my computer in my lap, so that was good, and she’s usually pretty calm when I just watch TV as well, unless she’s in a rough play session. There was a period as well when she did not play that much during the day, so it was hard to wake her up in order to play with her to make her tired enough to sleep all night, but the good thing about Corona is that I’ve started to sit more by my desk. Since I started doing that, she’s a lot more active and plays for hours when I’m using it. Aka she sleeps a lot better through the night.

What about training?

I had planned that I’d stick to 99% positive reinforcement training with her, but that failed quickly. I basically have yelled at her at least once per day for over three months. I absolutely hate that fact, but I can’t help it. It’s due to medical issues that I have no control over, so please don’t judge me. I at least make sure I’m not hurting her. Now, that it’s getting better, she’s a lot more chill and due to Corona crap that’s kept me at home a lot more, I’ve started to go back to better methods. Or I’m just too exhausted that I just can’t find the strength to become angry at her.

The way things are going now is pretty great, but I really do dislike all of her mischiefs. It’s like she does not care what’s allowed and not. No matter how many times I tell her no – that’s not acceptable etc, she keeps on doing it. She knows that she’s not allowed to use my desk chair as a scratching pole or plaything. It’s ok if she just lies in it, or sleeps in it, but no playing. I have to tell her off until she goes to sleep or something. It’s exhausting! She does not listen! I’ve done my best with all her mischiefs, and for some things it works. I started putting away all her toys and ignoring her during the night after I saw a video by Jackson Galaxy and it worked wonders. I’m using double sided sticky tape so she won’t jump onto the TV and other places, but it does not work always. I’ve tried putting sticky tape on the chair but it’s fallen off, so I cut up some cardboard boxes and put some sticky tape on them, but now she’s learned that those are movable, aka she can move them herself or just ignore them. I spray repellent on the recycling bins, but that only works sometimes. If I do it too much she gets used to the smell and ignores it and attacks them anyway. She’s also started to play with the toilet paper, so I have to put the roll in a box, that I must close after each use. If I do not, she’ll find it and roll out meter after meter off it. I also have to keep the shower doors closed, because otherwise she’ll play with the lid that goes over the sewer, or whatever it’s called. She likes to play with cables, and sometimes to chew on them as well. Most of them I’ve covered with plastic, but it does not always help. If I do not put absolutely everything that she could interpret as a toy at night, she’ll play with it and annoy the crap out of me. It’s a good thing the neighbors can’t hear me. Or at least I don’t think so. I should’ve heard some complaints by now if I make to much noise yelling at my cat.

What does she eat?

She primarily eats Mush, which is a Finnish brand of frozen meat balls made for cats and dogs. She also eats kibble from Royal Canin made for kittens. It’s total crap food, but she’ll eat that until she’s 1 years old. After that, we shall see. She also got some wet food that made her a wet food addict. She loves Mush, but it works great only sometimes, and not all the time. In the beginning she ate it like crazy and hated the kibble, but now it’s the other way around. It’s probably because of her baby teeth falling out, because she started eating more kibble when they started changing. She still wants it of course, the Mush I mean, but I’ve thrown away a lot of it, so I’m thinking of giving her less Mush or stop giving it all together. The reason for that are few, but still worthy causes of letting it go.

The main reason for stop giving Mush is due to me living in such a small space after I became single in october of 2019. Now I only live in a 322 square feet apartment (30 kvm), with a tiny fridge and freezer combined. For a while I bought a lot of Mush that it filled a whole section in the freezer. That was lovely, since buying a bag per week for her otherwise is really bothersome. Still it had it drawbacks filling a whole section. That means I lost a whole section for my own food. The good did not outweigh the bad here… The reason being that I’ve longed for having a stock filled freezer with just a bunch of good food just for me. One of the huge perks of being single and living alone!

The other reasons is that she’s started to have horrible bad breath, which primarily shows after she’s eaten Mush. That’s kinda weird since meat is the best thing for her. She could still be changing he baby teeth, and I’ve seen nothing wrong with her teeth. Her gums are light pink and her teeth are like pearly white. Still, I’ve ordered a chewing toy that acts like a tooth brush. I hope that’ll help. Time will tell. She also has gotten a lot of toys that she can chew on.

The third reason is due to costs. She costs a lot more than I’ve budgeted for. I’d planned for like $30 per month including insurance, food and toys. Instead she is costing me at least the double. Mush is expensive. I need to buy a gazillion new things for her per month so that she won’t destroy my stuff or be annoying as hell. I visit the pet shop like once a week, spending far too much that I bargained for. If she’d only eat kibble while I keep living in this apartment, things would hopefully be better, except for her health maybe. Hopefully such things will only show when she’s starting to become old, like 10+ or something like that. My cat Maja was healthy until she was like 11 years old. When she finally got sick it was too late to do anything, and had we thought about it then, we could’ve easily saved her life. Maja died due to eating kibble all her life, since she died of kidney disease. Kibble is the source for that, which is why I still like for Majken to keep eating mush as her primary source of food. I still haven’t decided what I’m gonna do. If I stop giving her Mush, I’d feed her wet food a lot more often instead, but the bad thing about that is that her stomach can’t handle too much of it, but when she gets it, she’s like a drug addict, screaming for more. I don’t know what to do. What would you do?


Just to point out – these things that she does are not that bad. It would not be such a big deal if I had a bigger place. Getting a kitten when I live in this little shoebox was a huge, huge mistake. Next place I shall be living in must have enough space and rooms so I could safely get more cats without being annoyed by noise at night. Therefore, my dream now is to have a dedicated “cat room”, where the future cats can be when I’m not at home, or when I’m sleeping and that room must be at least one room adjacent to my bedroom. Preferably in the east wing, if you catch my drift and my bedroom shall then be in the left one. Even if I were to forever stay single and/or live by myself – I just simply must have one extra room just for the cats. If I am not able to have an extra room for those furry balls of fluff, I will not have more animals. I’d stick with one cat at a time, and I’ll never – ever get just one kitten either. Many says having two helps a lot, especially if they are siblings or at least related.

I do not regret her. She’s my cat, my baby, my mischievous troll, but I would never – ever recommend that anyone get a kitten when you do not have a bigger apartment. Ok, fine I guess to have adult cats that are chill and do not make such noise at night, but for a person who’s like me, I’d really like to rewind time here and never gotten a cat right now. It’s too late to turn back of course. I’ve made my bed and I have to lie in it, and it’s fine. The good outweighs the bad, but it’s still a huge frustration that I can’t sleep at night, that I worry if I’m ever gonna sleep ok again and if she’ll ever stop with her mischiefs. My current sleeping disorders would probably never have started if I never got a kitten in this tiny, tiny apartment.

Hopefully one day, she’ll be as wonderful as my Maja was. That’s why I never wanted to live without a cat ever again… And it was also the reason why I got a Ragdoll instead of some other breed or just another house cat. I wanted to make sure that I’d get to live a calm, peaceful life with a cat in my lap that I’d just cuddle and feed.

I desperately hope she’ll be as chill as Ragdolls are known to be and that that day will come sooner rather than later.

How to's

How to not write a blog.

I got an idea when I woke up today. That idea was to move all of my posts from this blog to another site, and start over here. The reason is simple. Nobody reads this blog! I have a bunch of followers, but since I write so randomly about things, no wonder nobody comes over to visit.

Step 1.

Have a domain, name of a blog and topics that are not in sync. I chose to name my blog “In the mind of a Great Dane Maniac”, with a great subdomain that is, but the topics were mainly not about Great Danes, but of whatever that comes to my mind. It was a great idea, but not a great one for Google searches. I wanted people to come here to read everything, but that is not a good idea. The best idea is to have one topic and write basically about that topic and have a domain and name of the blog to match that topic. I should have named the blog something about veganism and Apple products, and that’s why the new adress for those posts lie at “Apples are vegan, right?” blog.

Step 2.

Write once in a blue moon for a while, and then write pretty much daily. Aka do not have a regular schedule for your posts. It doesn’t matter how often you post, but make it regular. And I guess Google and your readers like it when you posts at least weekly if it is possible.

Step 3.

Stick to the topic! Like I mentioned above, stick to your topic and do not mention other crap that’s not relevant in the post to that topic. If you want to write about cars, do not include your pet cat, unless you’re writing about how to safely ride with your cat in your car.

There are probably more steps, but don’t do as I do, because you’ll end up writing only for yourselves and perhaps a few relatives. Not for Google, and not for readers that might learn from your writing. Also a FB page and social media presence is also a good thing to have, of course.

Good luck and welcome back to whatever I shall write about next.